THIS ARTICLE IS DEDICATED TO MY FRIENDS AND ALL THOSE PERSONS WHO HAD SACRIFICED AND STOOD UP FOR THIER LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY
Since this world formed..each living creature is desperate to seek love..and this is the only "Hidden Motive" for what we struggle for all our lives..Its the basic psychological and physiological need...But whenever we get in touch with a person who cud love us..Do we really love him or her??We all boost off all our lives that we wish to love and to be loved..but do we 'truly' love??? Nope! My experience says that we dont truly and deeply love..Now this is a confusing statement!!Some might agree to my opinion and others might get mad at me and start abusing me!!'Cos its really hard to measure and define the intensity and definition of true and deep real love...for, even an average loving cud be more than a true love and for the other even sacrificing his whole life for his love might not be yet upto the mark..I guess the answer lies in this real event that I wud love to share with you and which really proved to be an eye opener for myself..
Last year in the early months I started gettin online and got registered to a site named 'Tagged' after my only sis' advised me to do so to meet few humans of my nature and my types..Before that I never believed in this online relationships..I was miles away from this stuff..maybe due to the same fear of being ditched and faked..But I wud really wish to thank God that my experiences over net never encouraged my belief..During those few primitive months I got hundreds of invitations and I cud select around sixty to seventy profiles and I began interacting actively thru' messages with few..Amongst those profiles I came to encounter two women from different countries..I wont display their or their countries' names for their respect and honour...and their life story shook me from head to toe..and changed my definition of true love..Since one of them told me that she is living now with her only son..whos just a small kid yet and now there s noone else whom she could call her own..she is workin much below than her qualification just for her son...and that her life is only dedicated for her son..and when I got to know the rest of her life story I cud feel my eyes wet with a saluting gesture for her..
..Few years ago she met a guy and both fell in love with each other..She began loving him on extremes..they even planned for marrying each other..and after few years she devoted herself fully to him..since he was everything for her..But then that man started changing and one day before their planned marriage date he got disappeared..she got crazy as if all her life turned into a hell..but then she realised also that he wud never come back again...Now she had two options left with herself..One;to forget everything and move forward with her life and bright future that was awaiting her...and Two; she shu'd give birth to his child that she was bearing now and make the whole world against her..To my surprise.. she opted for the second option..cos she had loved him fully with all her mind heart and soul..thou knowing that he never loved her sincerely...What then?..as expected the real hell broke upon her..her parents disowned her..her relatives cut every relationship with her..her closest friends got away..the society got severely against her..they started teasing and taunting her..she cud not get a good job..she cudnt get a single hand that cud lend a helping hand to her...every person so called responsible citizen dint see her love and feelings behind her doings but simply boycotted her...n that intelligent, all rounder, bright scholar girl turned into the worst'negative' woman overnight for them..but she din lose her will her determination and went on with all those odds and bearings and fighting alone against all..she brought up the child and now he is four years old already..but her struggle..its still on..but that brave lady is still firm with her decision and will..she doesnt have any regret bout the way she loved that man!
I dont know if she did right or wrong but the only thing I know is she loved someone truly and unconditionally..if she had the guts to claim her love she had the strength and will to fulfill it too!!
Dr Aryan
dr.aryan@ymail.com
Monday, June 15, 2009
WE CLAIM WE LOVE : DO WE REALLY???
THIS ARTICLE IS DEDICATED TO MY FRIENDS AND ALL THOSE PERSONS WHO HAD SACRIFICED AND STOOD UP FOR THIER LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY
Since this world formed..each living creature is desperate to seek love..and this is the only "Hidden Motive" for what we struggle for all our lives..Its the basic psychological and physiological need...But whenever we get in touch with a person who cud love us..Do we really love him or her??We all boost off all our lives that we wish to love and to be loved..but do we 'truly' love??? Nope! My experience says that we dont truly and deeply love..Now this is a confusing statement!!Some might agree to my opinion and others might get mad at me and start abusing me!!'Cos its really hard to measure and define the intensity and definition of true and deep real love...for, even an average loving cud be more than a true love and for the other even sacrificing his whole life for his love might not be yet upto the mark..I guess the answer lies in this real event that I wud love to share with you and which really proved to be an eye opener for myself..
Last year in the early months I started gettin online and got registered to a site named 'Tagged' after my only sis' advised me to do so to meet few humans of my nature and my types..Before that I never believed in this online relationships..I was miles away from this stuff..maybe due to the same fear of being ditched and faked..But I wud really wish to thank God that my experiences over net never encouraged my belief..During those few primitive months I got hundreds of invitations and I cud select around sixty to seventy profiles and I began interacting actively thru' messages with few..Amongst those profiles I came to encounter two women from different countries..I wont display their or their countries' names for their respect and honour...and their life story shook me from head to toe..and changed my definition of true love..Since one of them told me that she is living now with her only son..whos just a small kid yet and now there s noone else whom she could call her own..she is workin much below than her qualification just for her son...and that her life is only dedicated for her son..and when I got to know the rest of her life story I cud feel my eyes wet with a saluting gesture for her..
..Few years ago she met a guy and both fell in love with each other..She began loving him on extremes..they even planned for marrying each other..and after few years she devoted herself fully to him..since he was everything for her..But then that man started changing and one day before their planned marriage date he got disappeared..she got crazy as if all her life turned into a hell..but then she realised also that he wud never come back again...Now she had two options left with herself..One;to forget everything and move forward with her life and bright future that was awaiting her...and Two; she shu'd give birth to his child that she was bearing now and make the whole world against her..To my surprise.. she opted for the second option..cos she had loved him fully with all her mind heart and soul..thou knowing that he never loved her sincerely...What then?..as expected the real hell broke upon her..her parents disowned her..her relatives cut every relationship with her..her closest friends got away..the society got severely against her..they started teasing and taunting her..she cud not get a good job..she cudnt get a single hand that cud lend a helping hand to her...every person so called responsible citizen dint see her love and feelings behind her doings but simply boycotted her...n that intelligent, all rounder, bright scholar girl turned into the worst'negative' woman overnight for them..but she din lose her will her determination and went on with all those odds and bearings and fighting alone against all..she brought up the child and now he is four years old already..but her struggle..its still on..but that brave lady is still firm with her decision and will..she doesnt have any regret bout the way she loved that man!
I dont know if she did right or wrong but the only thing I know is she loved someone truly and unconditionally..if she had the guts to claim her love she had the strength and will to fulfill it too!!
Dr Aryan
dr.aryan@ymail.com
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